Motherhood

Hello to all - many things have been said about motherhood. However in my opinion the most important one is missing. We should be called Nobel Prize Winners in every category. We heal all wounds, resolve every conflict, invent science experiments, make volcanoes erput (more importantly on the spot).

Being a mom is perhaps the hardest task women can face. Imagine, we're entrusted in raising tomorrow's leaders. We always wonder if the decision we're making today are the smartest for tomorrow. Constantly we second guessing our actions and decisions, this seems to be part of the equation. In our work lives, if we make a mistake we can go back and correct it; or go to board, supervisor, boss and say listen I made a mistake we need to do over. With our children, there are no do overs; therefor we need to try to do it correctly or as best we can from the beginning.

Constantly being criticized by others (and ourselves which is even worse). When we go out with our bundles of joy; there are those staring glares if you reprimand, and if you don't, its even worse. I will admit that I've been very lucky my lil' one was never a restaurant shouter nor did she run wild.

But before motherhood, I used to be one of those that were critical of those that wouldn't discipline their child. I remember thinking "why don't you discipline your kid lady, just give him a push on the tush and they'll stop. However it wasn't until I became a mom that I understood the true importance of that push on the tush at the right time, as well as that perhaps it might not always be the best method to correct an action.

In the beginning I was little embarrassed to discipline my child in public. Then one day it dawned on me, "if I don't then what's her behavior going to be when she's older? Do I want her to be the opening story of the 6pm news? NO!" At that point I realized that parenting was a full time job and didn't end when we left our home, actually that's where it starts. We all want our children to be the best they can; but we have to show them. Don't be afraid to discipline and correct; your child will love, respect and one day perhaps thank you.

A couple of years ago I took a foster parenting class; and the social workers would share stories of stripping parental rights, kids behavior, number of times that children are returned to parents. We'd do mock situations regarding some of these and probably the most important lesson that the child would always want to stick by their side. The bond of mother child is rarely ever broken.

I'd like to share some of the lessons learned and those missed during my years of mothering. Its been an interesting road, from battling cancer previous & during my pregnancy to falling down and rebuilding. I hope you enjoy, learn, share, cry, laugh and perhaps share some of your stories and questions as well.