Most of the women that I know are either married or divorced. Those that are married complain about what their husbands don't do; and those that are divorced complain about boy-friends don't do. Most women believe that if he isn't talking its because he's upset about something; and that's not the case.
Men live in the now. Focused on what's happening around them today. As women though, we sometimes have this magical way of thinking that we can fix it all. Some even go as far as to live in the future. I don't get it. Why burn energy on a situation that may or may not happen.
Every time we make these grand plans for the future; we are missing out on the now, the simple pleasures of today. Do you realize that every moment spent in future world takes away from noticing the details that you should be learning about your guy TODAY?
IF YOU CAN'T ASK IT, THEN DON'T THINK IT!! You're cheating him and yourself. It's as though you're harboring secrets; and isn't that one of the common complaints women have. We don't need to take a back seat to men; we simply need to learn to be in the now.
Men need appreciation and we need to be cared for. Here's a good example of what I mean - this past new years eve - spent it with a man that I'm dating. Close to mid-night he jumped into the shower came out got dressed and met me in the balcony. A few minutes later I went to use the bathroom and noticed he didn't wipe down the inside shower glass. Let me tell that's a HUGE no-no in his house. I went towards him; gave him a kiss and said thank you. He was baffled by my words until I told him why. He showed me with that simple gesture that he cares for me and in turn by saying thank you I appreciated what he did (or in this case didn't do).
Ladies this is what I mean by living in the now and paying attention to the details of today.
Channel all your energy in learning about him today - that way when you are actually in the future you'll have a clear picture if he's the one or not.
